# Expectation, Resilience, and Success

> I don't believe in the usual talk about the secrets of success. Besides the fact that they are mostly prepared to sell, they mostly don't match the reality I see in my own life and those around me. They don't work. Meanwhile, there are some opinions that don't seem to be of this kind. Meaning they didn't come to sell a speech or necessarily hold your hand to walk the path of success.

2024-10-01 · Alireza Azadi · https://a-azadi.blog/en/post/resilience-and-success

I don't believe in the usual talk about the secrets of success. Besides the fact that they are mostly prepared to sell, they mostly don't match the reality I see in my own life and those around me. They don't work. Meanwhile, there are some opinions that don't seem to be of this kind. Meaning they didn't come to sell a speech or necessarily hold your hand to walk the path of success. They are words that shed light on mechanisms that are fundamental but mostly ignored, the results of which are very extensive. I watched a part of Jensen Huang's speech, which he gave a few months ago among Stanford students, and it had exactly such a feeling for me. As the saying goes, it ignited something in me :) At least it was very interesting to me because I had never thought about this relationship before. You can watch the video, which is short, but I want to write the essence of the message:

"Expectations reduce resilience," and resilience is one of the most fundamental requirements to keep going on the path.

Why do I buy this statement and think it's worth it? Because the CEO of Nvidia said it?! No. Anyone who holds a microphone thinks they have to say something to impress the audience. But I buy this because I see this relationship in the lives of the people around me whom I consider decent people. People so calm as if problems never come to them. People in whom even the simplest and most inexperienced eyes can see a mountain of talent and capability. At the same time, you never see them in a pathetic and regretful struggle to reach their desires: "Should we apply to go to such and such university?" "Why do those companies not hire me no matter how many resumes I send?!!! I am so knowledgeable! I am really wasted!!" and a thousand examples of complaints and regrets that we hear from the mouths of people usually close around us (and of course ourselves).

I don't want to sell a solution to anyone here. Low expectations also don't necessarily have to lead to gaining success. Many people with low expectations have broken their bones on the path of life and were eliminated from the flow of life halfway through. The fact that they don't complain and "it's as if problems never come to them" is definitely and clearly a complex combination of the characteristics they have and, of course, luck. A lot of luck, which I consider the main foundation for "becoming something". But with all these interpretations, this statement still holds true in its place: expectations reduce resilience, and resilience is one of the most fundamental requirements to keep going on the path.

[Jensen Huang Video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RX6y0Nrwa1I)

You can find the english translation (translated by ChatGPT) [here](https://chatgpt.com/share/6703b998-ab68-800d-b532-64d3a26ac178)